domestic abuse awareness month

#grlclbDAAM day 6 - financial abuse

one of the lesser known - or at least talked about - forms of abuse is financial abuse. this is one form of abuse which categorically centres around control - and, often, in a very literal sense. especially given that, as a society, we’re conditioned to be uncomfortable/ashamed/coy when talking about money, it makes it very easy to maintain control over someone when you’re controlling - or responsible for - their finances. some behaviours involved in financial abuse are as follows: preventing you from having access to your/your shared bank accounts/money lending or giving you money, and then demanding to...

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#grlclbDAAM day 5 - physical abuse

day 5 today i’ll be doing a quick run-down of the behaviours associated with physical abuse: slapping, punching you kicking you choking you biting you pulling your hair head-butting you preventing you from eating, or controlling what you eat preventing you from sleeping, or controlling when you sleep threatening you with weapons, or objects that could be used as weapons hurting you with weapons, or objects that could be used as weapons causing harm to people you love - family, friends, children - or pets forcing you to use drugs/alcohol smashing furniture/objects to threaten/intimidate you this list might seem obvious...

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#grlclbDAAM day 4 - emotional abuse

to many people, physical violence is the be-all and end-all of abuse. even people who recognise the very real issue of emotional abuse, may not actually be able to recognise what constitutes it. it’s important to remember that emotional - or psychological - abuse, isn’t always about name-calling or putting someone down. the element of control and coerciveness is often present in a lot of emotional abuse behaviours. the following is a list of possible behaviours associated with the experience: insulting you, calling you names undermining you, putting you down threatening you/those you care about threatening to have your children...

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#grlclbDAAM day 3 - an intro to abuse

after monday’s brief into to this month of campaigning, it’s probably wise to start off with some info about what domestic abuse actually is. the consensus from all sources is generally the same, but the following info is taken from the scottish women’s aid website, which you can access here abuse is defined as a pattern of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading, and/or violent behaviour by a partner or ex-partner. this can include sexual violence. on the whole, domestic abuse is generally much more commonly experience by women and carried out by men. this doesn’t mean that men don’t experience it,...

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#grlclbDAAM day 2 - covering your tracks

hello again friends. before we get into any abuse chat, it's important we talk about covering your tracks online. many abusers will check up on what you have been looking at online. if you are found to have been looking up domestic abuse information, this can potentially put you at risk. many abuse-sepcific websites have a feature in place that allows you to exit the site immediately - but not all websites have this, and sometimes your browsing history can still be accessed.  below are guidelines on how to delete history from various browsers. safari (desktop): in the top window...

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